When a woman is pregnant the emotions are flowing. She could burst into tears at any moment, it could be from a photo of a cute puppy or a sad song on the radio. Or, she may just feel sad because she can no longer paint her own toenails due to the big belly which has literally transformed her body. Add to this being bloated, moody, tired and nauseous and it makes you appreciate what your own mother went through in order to give you life.
Yet, for some reason, strangers seem to think a woman’s pregnancy is their business. Here are 5 things you should never say to a pregnant woman, and yet people always do. We hope this gives you a giggle:
“Can I Touch Your Belly?”
Would you ask a middle-aged man with a pot belly if you can rub it? Probably not. Just because there is a baby inside a woman somehow makes the idea of personal space non-existent. While this may be fine for close friends and family to touch the alien-esque legs which creepily pop through her stomach, those outside of her support network should stay away. Pregnant mothers are protective and this is the equivalent of a stranger approaching a new mom and asking if they can hold her baby.
“I’m So Tired…”
Really? You’re tired. Unless you are a parent, telling a woman between conception and the 10th birthday of her youngest child that you are tired is always met with resentment. You don’t know the meaning of tired until you have midnight leg cramps, night time toilet trips or a screaming newborn. Even if you haven’t slept for three days straight, don’t complain to her.
“Are You Having Twins?”
There are variations of this such as “Do you have a beach ball in there?”, “Why haven’t you popped yet?” or “I can’t believe you are only six months pregnant”, but they all result in a woman feeling even bigger than she did before you opened your mouth. Sure, some women have the pregnancy glow, bouncy hair and don’t put on a pound. They are the lucky ones as it is more common to put on weight, experience erratic skin and fall asleep before dinner.
“Why Are You Having Another One?”
For those with a growing family, this question is often asked. If new parents announce they are expecting, this is certainly not the reaction they expect. Instead of asking them how they are going to cope, simply keep your judgement to yourself and offer your congratulations, and offer their new baby a teddy bear. Having a child is hard, but it is always a blessing.
“Are You Allowed to Do That?”
Anyone who has ever been pregnant knows there are sacrifices to be made. No soft cheese, hot baths, and no alcohol can be difficult to adjust to. There are a few things which a doctor may allow limited amounts of such as coffee and Coca Cola. So, if a woman has her one coffee a day and is made to feel guilty for it, you may just find yourself with one less friend.
We hoped these 5 tips made you smile and if you have ever been pregnant we are sure you can relate! What is the weirdest thing anyone ever said to you when you were pregnant? Let us know in the comments section below.
Hi, I’m Anna the Editor of Beauty and Lace. This website was my first baby and since its launch, I’ve gained three kids, a husband, and a puppy! We want to keep this space positive, we are all about sharing the things we love – and avoiding the things we don’t. Happy reading x