Book Review: Dare

Author: Tracey Cox
ISBN: 978-1-444-76992-0
RRP: $16.99

On first picking up Dare it looks like many of the erotic fictions currently on the market and unless you know who Tracey Cox is (I didn’t) or flick straight to the blurb on the back you would be forgiven for thinking that’s what this is. But Dare is totally different in the most basic sense because Dare in not fiction.

International sex, body language and relationships expert Tracey Cox has brought together a collection of women to share with readers their fantasies, and how they came across into the real world.

Beginning with introductory messages from Cox about the nature of Dare and then the reasons we fantasise; and ending with sections about things to consider when looking at making your fantasies a reality the main part of Dare is written in three distinct sections: The Fantasy, The Decision, The Reality.

All of the women who contributed to this book are real women, their ages and professions are correct though all names and other identifying information has been changed to protect the identities of those involved.

Dare highlights that all fantasies are different and what is a major turn on for some is the exact opposite for others, and that just because it seems like a good idea in your head doesn’t mean you would want to follow through if the opportunity arose.


The fantasies are well written and erotic, mini movies played out in words, that vary dramatically as do the women who picture them. If you just want a hot and heavy read then skip to these bits. The decisions take us through how these fantasies transformed into new experiences in the real world, how the decision was made and any planning that was needed to make it a reality. The reality depicts how it all happened, the actual experience, the positives, the negatives and the fallout.

Fantasies are generally very private, they are the most secret things we keep in our heads to get us through in times of need. They are often things that don’t match with our day time personas, and that’s completely normal. Our fantasies are where we are totally free to be and do whatever we fancy because no-one can see and no-one can judge. Shy and selfconscious? Not in your fantasies – there you can be the dominatrix. Self conscious about your body – not anymore, now you can be supermodel gorgeous.

Dare demonstrates that fantasies can be healthy, they can do positive things for relationships when approached carefully. BUT they can also backfire completely, what seemed like a good idea in planning didn’t work out so well in the real world so you need to be patient and prepared, as well as certain of what’s more important – your relationship or your fantasy.

For those after a hot and heavy read you won’t be disappointed but for those who might be considering ways to spice up their relationships this is quite an educational and insightful read. It also brings a new perspective to fantasising, normalises it and shows that it isn’t anything to be ashamed of.

Definitely not what I was expecting but quite an enjoyable read.

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